Since the Supreme Court is considering gay marriage currently, here are some comments that may be of interest to those following the news reports:
Homosexuality and Young People
We are being told that young people approve of gay marriage by a large margin. That is to be expected when you consider the extensive campaign by the Gay Lobby to change America's perception of gays that they launched in the 1960's. I detail the campaign in my blog of March, 2013.
One of the main arguments we hear from the young is that they can't understand how any two beings that "love one another" can't have the right to be married. As a marriage counselor since the 1960's, my response is "absolutely not". A significantly large percent of those who come to marriage counselors to get married should never be married.
For example, it may become apparent, after spending time with a couple, that is a physically or psychologically abusive relationship. A counselor would never condone or encourage the couple to get married. Or, it may become apparent that the two have conflicting primary purposes of life. Their drives are so contrary that there is no glue to hold them together in marriage.
We often hear of people taking their potential spouse home to meet their parents when they are serious enough to consider marriage. The chances are very real that, when the parents, who know their child the best, meet the potential spouse, they may well not approve of the relationship. That would definitely be a strong sign that there is something that would disqualify the marriage.
So, the argument is not valid. There are plenty of reasons why two beings who say they "love each other" should not enter into into marriage.
When Did You Choose to be Heterosexual?
A common tactic to defend gay marriage is to ask an opponent, "When did you choose to be heterosexual?" The purpose of the question is to prove that gays are born gay, therefore it is a civil rights issue.
The answer is that we are what we pursue and do. That is what defines us. We are not what we consider or have an inclination to do. I have considered being a professional ball player. I'd be very interested in being defined as such. I have even practiced playing ball, playing the game, and watching thousands of games. But, I have never pursued a professional career nor played for a professional team. Therefore, I'm not defined as a professional ball player.
On the negative side, one who has been tempted to take a valuable item from a store without paying for it is not a shoplifter until they pursue a plan to take the item and leave the store with it.
A heterosexual is one who pursues and does heterosexual acts. A homosexual is one who pursues and does homosexual acts. Therefore, when someone asks a heterosexual when they chose to be one, the response should be, "I regularly pursue and engage in heterosexual acts, therefore, that's what I am".
Dr. Ben Carson's Comments on Homosexuality
The famous surgeon, Dr. Ben Carson, has been attacked this week for his comments putting bestiality and pedophilia in the same conversation with homosexuality. His critics say he therefore believes that bestiality and pedophilia are just as natural (or unnatural) as homosexuality.
What no one is remembering is that is was the President who linked bestiality and homosexuality. The document he signed and sent from his desk to the Pentagon last year recinding the policy of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" for homosexuals also recinded the prohibitions of bestiality. The two were side by side and the rationale for
lifting the bans were the same thoughout the document.
His critics also forget that it was the gay lobby that put two statements in the 1972 Gay Platform calling for the abolition of the age of consent which would in fact legalize pedophilia.
Why were those facts ignored by the press?
